Choosing a Baby Urn: Gentle Answers to Your Most Asked Questions

When a baby dies, whether during pregnancy, at birth, or in early infancy, the grief is overwhelming. Among the many painful decisions families face in the days that follow, one of the most tender is choosing an urn to hold your baby’s ashes.

At Pure Keepsakes, we understand this is not just about choosing a vessel—it’s about finding something that honors your baby’s life, however brief, with dignity, love, and care.

Below, we’ve gathered some of the most common questions parents ask when selecting an urn. We hope these answers help bring you some clarity and comfort during an incredibly difficult time.

💭 1. What size urn do I need for my baby’s ashes?

This is one of the most common—and understandably difficult—questions to ask. The size of the urn depends on your baby’s gestational age or weight at the time of passing.

As a general guide:

• For miscarriages or early gestation losses, a small keepsake urn is often suitable.

• For stillbirths or full-term infants, a slightly larger urn is typically recommended.

• Your funeral director or crematorium will usually let you know how much space is needed.

If you would like to message us directly, we’re here to help you choose gently and without pressure.

💭 2. Can I personalise the urn with my baby’s name or dates?

Yes. Many parents find comfort in adding personal touches like:

• Baby’s name or nickname

• Birth or passing date

• A short message, quote, or symbol (such as a heart, star, or footprints)

Our ceramic urns can be beautifully personalised with a laser-engraved design, creating a unique and meaningful tribute to your baby. To find inspiration, visit our gallery to see some of the designs other parents have lovingly chosen.

💭 3. What materials are best for a baby urn?

Ceramic is a popular choice for its beauty, delicacy, and timeless feel. Every piece is hand-crafted with care, and can be displayed at home or kept in a special place. Other material options include wood, glass, metal, or biodegradable urns (for burial or scattering).

We chose ceramic for our urns because it offers a warm, peaceful presence—quietly beautiful, like the love it holds.

💭 4. Can I keep the urn at home? Is that allowed?

Yes. You have every right to keep your baby’s ashes at home if that brings you comfort. Many parents place the urn in a nursery, on a shelf, or in a memory box, often accompanied by keepsakes, photos, or letters.

There’s no “right” way to grieve. You can keep the urn close, or create a small memorial space—whatever feels right to your heart.

💭 5. What if I’m not ready to decide yet?

Take your time. Grief doesn’t follow a schedule. If you need to wait days, weeks, or even months to decide on an urn, that’s completely okay. Your funeral provider can usually hold your baby’s ashes safely until you feel ready.

We’re here whenever that moment comes—whether it’s today or much later.

💭 6. Can siblings or family members have a small keepsake too?

Yes. Many families choose keepsake urns—tiny versions of the main urn—or jewelry that holds a small portion of ashes. These can be given to siblings, grandparents, or close relatives who want to carry a part of your baby’s memory with them.

Keepsakes can be a gentle way to help siblings understand and stay connected to their baby brother or sister.

💭 7. How do I care for a ceramic urn?

Our ceramic urns are handcrafted and glazed for durability. To keep them clean, gently wipe with a soft cloth. Avoid harsh cleaners or abrasive materials. We also recommend displaying the urn in a safe place, out of reach of pets or very young children.

A Gentle Final Thought

Choosing an urn is one of the hardest things a parent may ever have to do—and we wish with all our hearts that you didn’t have to. But if you are here, we want you to know this:

Your baby mattered.
Your grief is real.
You are not alone.

Whether you need help choosing an urn, personalizing a keepsake, or just want to talk through your options, we are here—with care, patience, and deep respect.

With love and compassion,
Michael & Gabriella

Handcrafted Ceramic Urns for Baby Ashes
Honoring tiny lives with tenderness.